The Journey of a Vision

Jack looked at her in the eyes. He moved the hair covering her face to see her beauty against the light of the sunset. “I love you,” Jack said to Jill as he took her hands in his and slowly went near to her face. With the smooth sea breeze flowing through them, Jack went nearer and nearer. Jill closed her eyes and felt as her lips touched Jack’s. The sun in the horizon have set, leaving them in each other’s arms under the light of the moon and the stars.

Wasn’t that nice?

That is what society want us to believe. That relationship is a bliss. That it’s merely a romantic affair that satisfy the deepest of passions in each one of us. But as individuals, do you honestly believe that?

Relationships are not an easy kind of thing. It maybe fulfilling but it gives a lot of problems. I’m not saying all type of relationships are a no-no. It’s just that as youths, are we actually ready to face up to the challenges of relationships? We can’t even solve an otherwise simple math problem then we want to dwell into a problem that is more complex.

Guys. Come on. Are you not happy staying single for now? Think about this for a moment. How were you before a girl entered your life?

Before a girl entered your life, all you have to problematize is how you’re going to pass your exam, how you’re going to train for the latest competition, what you’re going to eat, etc. But when a girl enters your life, there’s an added dimension to each question which makes it more complex. For example, what can I do to make her notice me, should I train some more to have a nice body, does she like me, does she notice me, etc.

Get my drift?

No matter how much you look at it, it goes to the very conclusion that girls are the main cause of a teenage guy’s problems.

Ok. If you still don’t get it. Let me explain again. But this time in a different time frame; when you’re already in a relationship.

When you’re already in a relationship, you are responsible for your partner. One of the responsibilities is calling her, buying her gifts from time to time, sending her short messages, taking her out for shopping or dinner, etc. If you look closely at those “obligations”, one thing is common: Money, time and energy.

In this time, will your relationship really last for a very long time? Statistics have shown that an average teenage relationship only last for an average of 3 months. So let’s take that number.

If you are in a relationship and in total, you spend almost S$500+ per month, that would mean that you spend a sum of S$1500 by the time you end your relationship. That’s not even including the time and energy you have spent. So maybe if we calculate it, you’ve actually spent around S$3000!

Now, with an investment of S$3000, what did you get in return after you broke up with her?

Nothing. Zilch. Zero.

Please, don’t waste your money on such things. Imagine where S$3000 can go. You can buy around 5 iPod Touch complete with accessories or maybe a hefty lot of new clothes or maybe you can invest that on other things which will multiply your S$3k.

Imagine that.

See my point now?

I’m not saying that girls are purely the cause of all our problems. Guys have their own flaws as well. Like for example, we guys are irresponsible. Hands down!

So why not we use this time in our teenage life to perfect ourselves by training ourselves to be more responsible individuals who will be able to handle more complex problems in the days to come. Stop living in a world where you think that love conquers all or that you will recognize true love at first sight.

Understand that a fulfilling relationship will only happen, when it has went through the test of time. Remember that doing the right thing at the wrong time is still the wrong thing.

Can’t we just control our hormones?

Here’s a final question for all of you.

If  you can’t even be responsible for your own self, how can you be responsible for another person?